Day 25: Control what you can!

AJ finally tested negative yesterday, we are all relieved and thankful to God and all our family friends and well wishers. We thought it was all over after 2 weeks, but this virus had a mind of its own. The new mentality AJ has is we have to show this virus that we can beat it by being as positive but aggressive as possible.

The more I listen to the news, I realize that this whole ordeal and what’s going around the world is really not in our control and by totally accepting that fact, only can I get some internal peace.

I was supposed to be in Karachi, visiting my parents this week and had been planning my trip since last November. I would never have imagined in my wildest dreams, that I would be cancelling my trip, but unfortunately I have no control over the situation.

  • The most powerful weapon against uncertainty is your perspective, it can empower or victimize you. By controlling what we can, we can feel powerful. Being constantly scared and stressed about the virus, only hurts your emotional health and physical health.
  • The important thing is to think about the things we can control:

    • Staying home and socially distancing
    • Washing our hands and surfaces often
    • Staying active as much as we can
    • Staying positive and optimistic
    • Taking time out to look after our emotional health by breathing, meditating and praying
    • Giving ourselves some tech free time daily
    • Taking one day at a time
    • Eating lots of plant foods which have antioxidants to help with our immunity
  • By focusing on the now, will help us to be in the present as no one knows what will happen in the near future or far future!
  • To celebrate, I decided to bake Amir’s favorite banana bread, but I really wanted to decrease the sugar and butter. I perused through some recipes and made a Zucchini banana bread made with olive oil and maple syrup. It was really delicious and AJ and Saniya loved it the semi sweet chocolate chips helped. It was different from my regular but it was still moist. I am obsessed with baking with olive oil as there is no saturated fat and the taste is great.
  • Here is the recipe I used, I did not have all purpose flour so I added finely shredded coconut and some flaxseed meal.
  • I also enjoyed it toasted the next day with a little bit of butter.
  • https://www.halfbakedharvest.com/chocolate-chip-olive-oil-zucchini-banana-bread/
  • 3 Weeks into Corona: Rest & Kindness

    AJ is recuperating but unfortunately it is a slower process, than we expected. Even after the virus leaves the body, some people have after effects and the doctors say that Rest is the only answer. I am just so thankful to God and cannot pray enough for all those going through a tough time.

    After 2 weeks of being locked indoors, I was excited to go into the office but it was a ghost town. I couldn’t find a single place open to eat lunch, I felt very emotional to see New York so dead. I walked home on the river which was also empty.

    Sometimes it is really hard to keep your spirits high, amongst all this sadness . My mood changer was a surprise parcel of a Chocolate Babka. It took a lot of guesswork to figure out the sender. Thank you!

    I have been so fortunate to be on the receiving end and I realized that small deeds of kindness can really change, the way people feel.

    I am going to try my hardest to do 1 small kind deed a day. Something as simple as call to a friend, who could be lonely or send an Amazon gift to someone going through a rough time. My favorite gift to send anyone with Covid19 is Elderberry gummies!!

    Gratitude, kindness and forgiveness are the qualities, we sometimes take for granted. I personally feel that this time stuck indoors has allowed me to reflect on what I want to prioritize.

    We had a healthy meal yesterday, and today AJ wanted Pizza. I am not sure it is the healthiest meal but Moderation and Balance are key in staying well. Denying yourself only leads to the desire to go overboard.

    I had a box of baby kale and radishes in my fridge, I added some apples for sweetness and sunflower seeds for crunch. The salad added a pop of color to our meal. The dressing recipe is my favorite, it’s easy and full of flavor.

    Kale radish salad.

    Ingredients

    • 1 box baby kale
    • 6 red radishes
    • 1 small apple
    • 1/4 cup sunflower seeds
    • 4 Tbs olive oil
    • 1 1/2 Tbs apple cider vinegar
    • 1 Tbs honey
    • 1 Tbs Dijon mustard
    • Salt/black pepper

    Method

    In a small jar, mix the mustard, honey, vinegar and oil, shake well. The mustard and honey add opposing flavors.

    Pour the dressing and mix the salad really well.

    Immunity Soup

    Today is the first day in this 20 day journey that I made an effort to dress up and put on some makeup. What a difference it made in my psyche. I felt happy and energetic and really had an amazing day. I never realized the power of lipstick.

    AJ decided to work from home to build back his energy, so he could be 💯 went he went back. I so pray and hope that all my loved ones who have this virus, recover soon. I pray for the whole world.🙏

    I have been been craving sweet potato fries, but I wanted to channel that craving into something more substantial and healthier.

    Sweet potato soup is what I decided to make today. This orange potato has so many health benefits. It can also help support your immune system. It is chock full of the antioxidants, Vitamin A and Vitamin C, which help against inflammation in the body. 1 medium size potato can contain 3 grams of fiber, which helps with digestion and satiety. It is also is a good source of B vitamins and potassium.

    I went out to take a walk in my lunch break and bought 3 sweet potatoes and a small box of chopped onions, celery and carrots.

    Sweet potato soup

    Ingredients

    • 3 sweet potatoes
    • 1 box chicken or vegetable stock ( 4 cups)
    • 1/2 cup chopped onions
    • 1/2 cup chopped celery
    • 1 cup chopped carrots
    • 1 tsp chili flakes
    • 1 small piece ginger
    • 1-2 Tbs Thai red curry paste
    • Salt/black pepper to taste
    • 1 can coconut milk
    • Fresh basil
    • 1 fresh green chili
    • 2-3 Tbs olive oil
    • Method
    • Peel the sweet potatoes and cut them into 4-5 pieces.
    • In 2 Tbs olive oil add the chopped onions, celery, carrots and ginger, sauté for 5-8 minutes till vegetables soften, add all your spices and the red curry paste and keep stirring till everything is well mixed. Add the sweet potato and the box of stock and slowly cook. I made mine in the Instant pot slow cooker, while I worked out.
    • Once the sweet potatoes are softened, use an immersion blender to blend all the vegetables. Once everything is uniform add 1 can coconut milk. Let the soup boil, add some fresh basil and a green chili.
    • We had ours with pasta that Saniya made.
    • Tomorrow, I want to use my chickpeas, baby kale and feta. So stay tuned.
    • I know my pics are not the best!! I am not a professional blogger so my apologies!

    Corona after effects: Fear

    AJ is slowly improving but the virus really plays havoc on the body. It is a force to reckon with. You have to rest your body to be able to get back to normal. It can take more than 14 days and we should accept that fact.

    Unfortunately the world is not improving and watching and hearing the media is causing fear and anxiety in all of us. More and more people we know are being diagnosed, and this virus is really hitting home and affecting all of our psyches.

    When you have this virus in your house, not only are you personally affected by a loved one going through it, but also physically and mentally taxed. We can complete the 14 day quarantine fully but will we be treated the same as before? How do people view us knowing we were around the virus- despite us being cleared by medical professionals. I am not sure!

    Fear is making everyone on edge to the point where we cannot think straight. So many people must be going through this fear and it’s important to figure out how to help reduce it, rather than act irrationally. My friend just told me Fear should not paralyze us! I agree with her in this sentiment in that we cannot let the fear overtake us. If we are doing everything we can to be cautious, why should we feel scared in our daily lives, even being home!

    I am trying to listen to calming music and watch funny movies, anything to take my mind off Covid19.

    I am trying to use meditation apps and mindfulness apps to help myself and Amir get through this.

    I hope you can use this time to be creative and channel the fear into something positive.

    I know it’s not easy and it’s easier said than done.

    We need to start learning to calm our brains and bodies down. Prayer, reflection, breathing.

    Trying is all we can do. Take one day at a time and do anything that can bring a smile to your face.

    To help my mood, I made a pot of warm oatmeal with bananas and maple syrup and walnuts and I added some shredded coconuts and my loved hemp seeds. I had a glass of orange juice and felt as good as I could be on a rainy day.

    We ordered some Thai food and keep trying like everyone else to take One Day At A Time.

    Tomorrow I want to make a sweet potato soup without cream, so stay tuned for a healthy recipe.

    I end with some basic facts, which we may all know:

    Day 14: This Too Shall Pass

    Today it is exactly 2 weeks since AJ had the first shivers and fever. Since yesterday he has not taken any fever medicines, which is a great sign. The infectious disease specialist, said we could take a walk outside this weekend, something I cannot wait to do. He is slowly getting his strength back by doing some indoor simple workouts and drinking the home made broth, which I made at long last!

    For all my readers, Thank you for coming on this journey with us. We have had some lows and some highs but through these 2 weeks, the high has been the love and concern from all our friends and family. We are so grateful to each and everyone of you. Thank you to the friends and family who went out of their way to deliver food to us.

    Next week, we will get out into the city, but unfortunately the City we love is not the same. Knowing that this “This too shall Pass” is an important mantra for me and that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

    We all as a community, city, country and world, have to do what is right in order to beat this virus. We can and will beat this virus. Staying at home currently is the only way to stop it from spreading.

    I will still blog my usual food and wellness, but over the next few weeks, I would love to add a point of view from another writer. I have friends and family, across different fields and if anyone would be willing to share their perspective on this platform I know it would be very meaningful to everyone! during times like these I realize all we have is one another and coming together to support one another through shared experiences, both good and bad, is a positive way forward. whether that be things health, wellness, food or lifestyle related, or just funny stories!  My email is jafferh@outlook.com

    Too read this blog, you do not need to be on Facebook, you can subscribe to this blog by adding your email at the end.  Every time I post, you will get an email.

    I end with love and prayers for the entire world.

    I love my beautiful city of NYC img_1205-1

     

    Day 13: Now What?

    AJ thankfully had his first day without a fever, let us see what happens at night. He seems happier and positive. He is weak and will need to take things slowly, but as of now he hopes to get cleared to go out Friday and inshallah back to work by next Monday. We will take one day at a time and see what happens.

    So I was thinking of today’s topic and I realized tomorrow is Day 14 and my last day to blog about our Corona journey. I thought to myself Now what?

    We really have no end date as of now for this crisis, even though I pray and hope it ends soon. Being quarantined indoor and having AJ sick has been a roller coaster but it is ending and we all have to adapt to a new normal in so many ways.

    It can be frightening to not know what is out there once we hopefully have some normalcy. A lot of us maybe having a hard time even grappling with whats going on, let alone how it may affect our future. Here is a great article that Saniya sent me.https://www.google.com/amp/s/hbr.org/amp/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief

    On a positive note, I received some delicious home made food from my sister in Michigan. I don’t think I will be cooking for a few days apart from adding a side salad to the food. I am so so grateful for everyone’s concern, love and prayers.

    It was a grey day in New York, so I did an indoor workout on my phone, which was amazing. Every bit of movement counts not only for our physical health but for our mental and emotional health. Please keep moving even at home.

    Love and Gratitude!

    If anyone has a topic they would like to write on this blog, please send it me and you can be the guest writer of the day. That would make me 😀

     

    Day 12: Nourishment

    AJ is slowly but surely recovering. He still has a cough but his fevers at night have lowered. His main goal is now resting and recuperating. Which is a good sign and he has learnt that “Health is Wealth” and Prayers from loved ones have been crucial. To beat this virus you need to rest your body and brain.

    I have been resting  as much as I can and by Gods grace my only symptom is fatigue and malaise. So still all good at my end!

    Nourish Your Body

    One thing within your control is the nutrition that you provide to your body. During stressful times, be mindful that your body needs all the help it can get with power-boosting nutrients.

    Stay hydrated by drinking a lot of water, up your vitamin C with red peppers or citrus fruits and prioritize vegetables and healthy foods that nourish your body and mind to perform at its best.

    Chicken soup appears to help fight colds, according to several studies. It helps clear nasal congestion as well as thin mucus so you can better cough it up. In addition, research shows it may have a mild anti-inflammatory effect than can help ease symptoms.

    Some studies have shown the below to help with respiratory virus. All these  have no harmful effects but are warm and soothing to the throat.

    • Hot nourishing soups
    • Peppermint, eucalyptus, and fenugreek tea
    • Warn damp air
    • Salt water gargle
    • Ginger
    • Tumeric

    Nothing like home made chicken soup like my mom makes but I made a chicken noodle soup with some pantry items and no chicken.

    Boil a box of chicken stock, a variety of vegetables and some black pepper and salt. Add some noodles  then finish with lemon juice.

    For dessert, I made a Blood orange olive oil cake by Melissa Clark.

    I added coconut and almonds to the recipe to make it a bit more hearty.

     

     

    Day 11: Hope

    AJ is back home, has a cough and looks weak but high spirits and very positive. God is great!

    Great to have loved ones with us in these times. Try to appreciate every minute of this reflective time. If they are not with you, use virtual ways as connecting is such a heart warming feeling and brings smiles to all. The power of love and connection can give us strength in times of crisis.

    This blog is early as I want to spend my evening with AJ.

    I have mild flu symptoms mainly burning eyes, and lots of fatigue. I used those symptoms to finish work early and just lay in bed and listen to some soothing verses from the Quran.

    It’s just crazy that in these times mild flu symptoms are what we hope to hear.

    My friends had a virtual pray session at 1pm, that filled my heart with hope for the world.

    A beautiful poem that soothed my soul:

    What does hope do for mankind?

    ·     Hope shines brightest when the hour is darkest
    ·     Hope motivates when discouragement comes
    ·     Hope energizes when the body is tired
    ·     Hope sweetens when the bitterness bites
    ·     Hope sings when all melodies are gone
    ·     Hope believes when the evidence is limited
    ·     Hope listens for the answers when no one is talking
    ·     Hope climbs over obstacles when no one is helping
    ·     Hope endures hardship when no one is caring
    ·     Hope smiles confidently when no one is laughing
    ·     Hope reaches for answers when no one is asking
    ·     Hope presses toward victory when no one is encouraging
    ·     Hope dares to give when no one is sharing
    ·     Hope brings the victory when no one is winning

    In short, hope gives. 🙏❤️

    I felt like having French Toast as my sister in Dubai was talking about how delicious hers was, but I only had wheat bread and no cream, so decided to add orange juice, since all my friends want me to have Vitamin C and Zinc.

    Vitamin C French Toast

    Ingredients

    • 2 slices whole wheat bread
    • 1/4 cup Orange juice
    • 1/4 cup whole milk
    • 1/2 tsp cinnamon
    • 1/2 tsp vanilla essence
    • 1 egg
    • 1 tbs maple syrup or honey
    • 1 tbs orange zest
    • 1 tbs butter
  • Method
  • Best egg well add milk and orange juice, vanilla essence, cinnamon and orange zest, and maple syrup. Beat again till it’s mixed we’ll.
  • Lay your slices in a rectangle dish and pour egg mixture on top and let it soak for 5 minutes. Once slices are fully soaked, heat the butter in a skillet and fry one slice at a time till brown.
  • Serve with fruits and optional maple syrup.
  • I received some beautiful flowers from a friend so I admired Gods creation and ate my delicious toast. Obviously not as delicious as my aunts recipe with white bread and cream but it hit the spot.
  • Day 10- The Power of Acceptance & A New Normal

    Today AJ had a good day but fevers have returned so Corona is a very stubborn virus. Please keep praying as that’s what we all need. I decided to add a guest writer every week, so all my friends get ready to be called on. Here is Saniya Jaffer Business Analyst at Unilever and my pillar of strength!

    Hi everyone, today I decided to give my mom a break from the blog and hop on and share my perspective and our ups and downs of day 10.

    The topic I wanted to revolve today’s post around is acceptance, and our new normal.

    Over the course of the past ten days in quarantine and isolation, myself and my mother have been through a rollercoaster of emotions.

    Do we have this virus?

    Do we not?

    Are we going to catch it from touching the microwave that my father touched?

    The tv remote?

    Is washing our hands three times in an hour going to prevent the spread?

    What will it manifest like in our bodies?

    Will it be the same as it was in my father?

    In a sense, I know we are all feeling something like this right now, especially in New York. Not in most of your own homes, thankfully. However, we are all in a constant state of worry. Where can we go without exposing ourselves? Should we be scared? Should we be nervous? What is ok, what isn’t? This paranoia has been eating away at all of our sanity, slowly but surely.

    While I can’t answer a lot of those questions, what I can say is that social distancing is key. From being in a house with a doctor, I’ve been hearing the updates on hospital capacity, and healthcare workers day in day out working their hardest to help everyone. It is hard to accept that our new normal includes being away from our friends and family, taking less trips, working from home, and staying indoors. However, I can say that accepting this way of life makes it easier to move forward. For me, accepting I can’t go out and see my friends has made me reach out to friends around the world who I’ve lost touch with via phone or video call. It has also allowed me to finally start reading more books, and painting/sketching with my free time.

    Through all of this, today both my mother and myself finally felt like we could breathe. It wasn’t anything significant, there were no developments in how we felt or anything like that. But hearing of a couple more people close to us testing positive, we finally came to terms with the fact that we, and many in the city and across the US, are in fact going to get COVID19. And guess what? That’s OK. What makes it okay? The fact that we are doing all we can to protect those who might not be okay- the immune-compromised, the old, the weak- by staying at home and distancing and remembering this daily. In terms of symptoms, neither of us have experienced high fevers, shortness or breath or any sort of cough. What we are experiencing is heightened body aches and pain. Also some fatigue and lack of appetite. Additionally my mother’s eyes have been burning for a few days. There is no guarantee that these are in fact symptoms of the virus, however, accepting that it could be and that we are OK, is a comforting fact. Today I read “About 40 to 80 percent of the state’s population is going to be infected by corona virus, says Governor Cuomo. That amounts to 7.8 million to 15.6 million New Yorker’s infected”. While this could easily feel like an alarming number, if we are staying home and practicing safe distancing, monitoring our bodies, and building up our immune systems- that is the most we can do. Eating healthy, paying attention to our bodies, and staying healthy- this is what will fight the virus for most of us.

    Over the past 10 days I’ve felt like I was going crazy at many points in time, however one thing that has been keeping me sane and raising my spirits daily are my friends and family. My friends- not just across the country but across the world- reaching out to me daily, asking me how I am doing, asking how my father is, FaceTiming and making me smile. My cousins and family members- near and far no matter how much time has passed between our last interaction- showing me limitless kindness, love and support. I truly believe that the power of human connection and shared experience will bring us together to support one another and remind ourselves that we are all in this together. We all feel it, and it sucks, but we can and will lift one another up. All of us have so much to be grateful for- our homes, our families, our friends, our ability to connect with our loved ones around the entire world. I keep reminding myself that my problems- are really just a lack of luxury- losing a privilege that is and never was essential to my survival.

    How do we move forward? How do we stay sane in this time of unprecedented uncertainty? Hope. Hope that we as a global community will come together to support one another. Hope that we as young people will stay home and distance ourselves to protect those more vulnerable. Hope that our medical professionals stay safe physically and mentally as they see the damage this virus is causing first hand, every single day. Hope that those less fortunate that us are getting by too. Hope that, inshallah, this too shall pass.

    My baby did the hard work and so here is my yesterday recipe made with stuff from my pantry and freezer.We wanted something warm, hearty and spicy !!

    Red Curry  Soup 

    Ingredients

    • 1 box chicken stock (4 cups)
    • 3 Tbs red curry paste ( its a store bought concentrated paste)
    • 1 can coconut milk
    • 1 small onion chopped
    • 1 quart mushrooms
    • 1 tbs brown sugar
    • 2 tbs lime juice
    • 2 tbs chili garlic sauce
    • 2-3 tbs tomato paste
    • 10-15 shrimp
    • 1 bag shelled edamame
    • 2-3 tbs oil
    • 1-2 tsp chopped garlic
    • 1-2 tsp grated ginger
    • 2-3 basil leaves
    • salt and pepper to taste
    • 2 green chilis

    Method

    Heat the oil, saute the garlic, ginger and onions for a few minutes then add the mushrooms, add  the red curry paste and keep sauteing till vegetables are slightly soft.

    In a pan, pour the stock and let it boil, then add the tomato paste and chili garlic sauce, lime juice and brown sugar. Taste to see if the spice is to your liking and add more if needed.Stir and add salt and pepper.

    Once the soup is boiled add the onion mushroom mixture. Add the coconut milk and once its mixed well add your shrimps and green chili and let the soup boil so the shrimps cook. Top with basil leaves and enjoy!

    curry soup

    Corona day 9

    The good news by the grace of god, he is in better spirits and was smiling on facetime. the fevers are at night but go down with meds. Hopefully a few more days and he will be out. I am going to call him AJ due to HIPPA regulations.

    Seeing AJ smile and be positive really made my morning. My class went very well with the help of Saniya my business analyst. We zoomed with family all over the world and it felt good.

    Around 2pm, I started having chills and body ache. I at once took my temperature which was 98, but my body and eyes did not feel good. I got into the covers and thought to myself, I have Covid19. I told Saniya and she told me to stop taking my temperature every 15 minutes and told me to just try resting. I tried breathing and relaxing my mind and closed my eyes. All of a sudden, I heard a knock on our front door and opened the door to see that my food deliveries, I ordered last Saturday had finally arrived. The delivery guy looked exhausted and staying far away, I asked him how he was doing. He replied that he had been working non stop since 6am and that it was really rough. Here I was resting in my bed, while this poor guy was carrying my heavy package that were not even a necessity. I gave him a generous tip which made me feel better and then washed up and sat outside and prayed. My friends are doing a virtual prayer group. We all read a passage and pray for each other. Brilliant idea!!

    After checking with AJ and discussing my symptoms, I decided what I wanted to blog about today.

    STRESS I had basically not addressed my stress at all over the past few days, and realized a bit of reflection was needed.  Thinking about yesterday, I realized my stress was 8 out of 10, but I did none of the things I write about to address or alleviate the feeling itself.  Not hearing from AJ in the evening got me paranoid I was jumping to awful conclusions until a friend calmed me down. Also my upcoming class that I had to teach online for the first time added to the stress! I hardly ate all day and also only slept 5 hours last night. Finally I heard the news of another one close to me testing positive which only added again to the stress. Me and Saniya discussed this notion of known VS unknown. At the start of our quarantine we were hoping we could get a test to know if we were in fact positive or just not showing extreme symptoms. Even today I kept going back to that “what if” feeling. However, Saniya reminded me that in normal times, when we think we are sick, what’s most important is taking care of ourselves, bringing our immune system up, and being kind to our bodies. In that sense, this time is trying on us, and its easy to constantly be asking ourselves if we do or do not have this ominous disease. But, considering everyone is seeming to reveal symptoms differently and to different degrees, the best we can do is continue to socially distance ourselves and protect others, and take care of our bodies. Feeding your body and mind with healthy food and thoughts is key!

    After praying, I reflected and realized my symptoms don’t necessarily have to be related to Covid19 but rather my Cortisol playing havoc on my body. Cortisol is the fight or flight hormone, which helps when we are in an acute stressful or dangerous situations, like a predator coming to get us. The short term effects help our body respond to the danger by increasing our heart rate, increasing our pulse and many other effects. When the stress is chronic or continuous like a lot of us are going through now, cortisol is continuously pumped and it plays havoc on our immune system and makes us more susceptible to diseases. In fact I feel AJ had been working overtime due to the pandemic without looking after himself and therefore put himself in a position of being more susceptible to the virus. With a weakened immune system, our body cannot properly protect us.

    I am going to get a full 8 hour of sleep tonight and make a healthy coconut curry soup with a side of sautéed Broccoli. I will put it on my blog tomorrow.

    One idea to get through the next few week is making a 30 day calendar, and adding one relaxing thing a day.  This maybe fun for kids to check of each day. Stress awareness month is April and here is last years calendar.stress month

    I would like to sign off by thanking each and every person, everywhere around the world who has reached out to us or kept our family in your duas. We feel your love. It is my hope that we as a global community can and will continue to support and pray for everyone’s strength and solace during this difficult time.

    Coronavirus Resource Center – Harvard Health

    The rapid spread of the virus that causes COVID-19 has sparked alarm worldwide. The World Health Organization (WHO) has declared this rapidly spreading coronavirus…
    — Read on www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/coronavirus-resource-center

    Coronavirus Sanity Guide — Ten Percent Happier

    Free resources to build resilience and cope with coronavirus stress and
    anxiety. These meditations, podcasts, talks, and blogposts will help you
    find some calm amidst the chaos.
    — Read on www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide

    Corona Day 8

    Well its day 8 and this virus is stubborn and pneumonia is a symptom and fevers are too. So waiting, praying and hoping is all we can do and knowing that he is monitored by talented doctors and nurses gives me hope. He will be fine as he is one of the strongest and calmest people I know.

    Not having him around has finally hit me and I decided not to blog, since I was sad, frustrated and stressed. BUT then I realized that this blog is meant to be an honest journey and I also realized that it is a normal process, so it was okay to cry and feel sorry for myself.

    Writing in my gratitude journal, I was overwhelmed with my blessings. I have my daughter with me who is a huge support, she is strong like her dad and made me practice all that I preach. My son is just a phone call away and a shoulder to cry on. It is in times of crisis that you really really value your loved ones, we all take each other for granted and teenage troubles seem so trivial in the big picture. I thought of all the people who don’t have their loved ones with them like some college students and thousands of others. I thought of people who were alone and quarantined in their apartments away from their loved ones. People who were stuck in ships and then those who passed away.

    This virus has affected so many people and will keep doing so, but this too shall pass. I realized that this whole mess is out of our control and being positive and taking one day at a time was important  and appreciating all we have is crucial.

    I prayed hard for myself and the world, that bought me the most solace. I sat outside and soaked up the sun and tried to get my vitamin D.

    Now that the sun has set, I have to get back to figuring out how to teach an online class, tomorrow morning. My techie husband  is unavailable and if weren’t for his expertise, I doubt I would even get my grades in!!!.

    On a positive note, lets all love ourselves and avoid guilt and other negative feelings.

    Take away:

    stress

     

    Week 1

    7 days of fevers, this virus is pretty stubborn with the pnemonia diagnosis, he is being monitored very closely by the best doctors and we have to pray  and most important be positive. He is a fighter and will get through this.

    Sitting at home with nothing to do in the evenings, I decided to enrol in a course through Coursera.  I enrolled in a positive psychology course and the first thing I learnt about feeling good in times of crisis is what we all already know “Giving Back

    In times of crisis, it is easy to feel overwhelmed and incapable of doing anything to help. But every bit of support makes a difference, because compassion isnt about how bad you feel about something, its about finding ways to ease the burden on those affected most.

    We are so so fortunate to be safe in our homes, while there are so many people losing jobs and are unable to pay their rent. Many health workers lives have been turned upside down and help is needed. Apart from a health crisis, we are in a huge economic crisis.

    Help is needed desperately and some ideas, I found helpful:

    • Research local organizations in the affected area and find out how you can help
    • Donate to an organization that is local
    • Check if any hospitals or schools need funds
    • Feeding America and No kid Hungry are some organizations you can look into
    • Practice social distancing as this is a public health crisis

    We are all in this together and as a community we need to unite and do things we can control instead of worrying about what we cannot control.

    Be optimistic and tell yourselves“We will get through this” There is fear and isolation but hope never dies.

    I end with love and prayers for us all. Thank you for all your support, I have received everyones calls and texts.

    This picture was on the back of a Healthy Harlem T-shirt and it brings a smile to my face.

    . Healthy Harlem Shirt